Have you found yourself feeling confused and rejected inside a love relationship?
I had to confront this situation, when my best friend, Bella, came to me with a deep concern....
She told me "Even when I do know I really love Joe, every time he does this, I feel like dying....He was telling his friends, at the party last night, about some of my mistakes at work, and he was laughing with them about me....I wanted to dig a hole in the floor and escape just there! Why would he do such thing to me...?"
I had to remember myself to breathe in; because her pain was so deep...how could she reconcile his behavior with the attitudes of the loving partner she expected to have....and what was she going to do now?
Then I remembered other opportunities when Bella had felt humiliated and put down by Joe, and by others....it was as she was a walking target for slights!
Why I'm telling you this? Because I wish for you to reflect on my friend Bella's words, and remember if you have been also in the receiving end of painful behavior....
Are you attracting more than your share of this kind of behavior? Well, we have a name for it: it is called passive aggression. Passive because the person doing it claims that he or she had no intention of hurting us.....even when it feels like real aggression for the receiver! There is no doubt that it is painful, so it is aggression!
We are here talking about a hidden, epidemic spread of hostile behaviors popping up in several contexts....it can be in your workplace, where your co-worker can suddenly hijack the best project and leave you out, "because you are so busy now," or in love relationships, where the issues of power and control are left unattended, and allowed to run rampant.
This is an invitation for you to look around and see when and where this passiveaggressive behavior is happening to you....Even when it hurts, you need to register your experiences of being treated in this way.....before it gets worst. 
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